Come join us on Friday, February 14th at 5:00 pm. on the lawn at the Placerville Courthouse, 495 Main Street, Placerville.

We’ll be doing a flashmob and joining ONE BILLION people around the world as we rise against sexual violence.


Let’s dance for justice! See us doing it last year!!



LEARN THE CHOREOGRAPHY !!! (It’s in German, but you don’t need the words)





Contact Julie Sena for more information @ or (530) 626-1450.



Please contact Julie at (530)626-1450 or for more information.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month – The Center for Violence Free Relationships

Walk a Mile in HER Shoes Challenge

The Center for Violence-Free Relationships will hold its 11th Annual Community March to End Sexual Assault on Saturday, May 4, 2013 at 549 Main Street (Town Hall) in Placerville California.  The theme of the March this year is Take the “Walk a MILE in HER Shoes Challenge.”

What is the “Walk a Mile in HER Shoes Challenge?” There’s an old saying: “You can’t really understand a person’s experience until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.”  The Center’s “Walk a Mile in HER Shoes Challenge” does just that!  We ask men to walk a mile in women’s high heeled shoes to raise awareness about sexual assault in our community and beyond.

So why high heels?  Because every 2 minutes someone is sexual assaulted in the US and unfortunately, sexual assault is a gender based crime where women are most likely the victims.  Too often the victims are blamed for the assault based on what they were wearing at the time, such as high heels or short skirts.  Last year alone, The Center helped 272 people affected by sexual assault in our community.

The Center’s “Walk a Mile in HER Shoes Challenge” is a community event to raise awareness and funds to support and prevent sexual assault in our community. This year’s Walk really is a challenge. Walkers will be challenged to walk a full mile down Main Street in Placerville, California in high heels being cheered on by their family and friends.

This year we have some high profile men in our community who will strut their stuff in red high heels to raise awareness about sexual assault in our community!  Our own District Attorney, Vern Pierson will be donning his 4” red heels as will District IV Supervisor Ron Briggs.  Joining them will be attorney Paul Zappettini; Breaker Glass owner and El Dorado Union High School District Board Member Kevin Brown; the Center Board President, John Moalli; the El Dorado Community Foundation Executive Director, William Roby and The Center’s Executive Director Matt Huckabay.

The event is great for individuals of all ages who want to participate in a beautiful walk and post-walk success party featuring The Placerville Rotarians cooking up some yummy hot dogs for all walkers!

The event is open to the public and we encourage families to attend together.  The Center also invites local companies to form teams and get their employees out in the community!  It is a great opportunity for employees to gather outside of the workplace with their families, friends, co-workers and clients while making a valuable contribution to their community.

Registration begins at 9:30 am at the Placerville Town Hall, 549 Main Street in Placerville.  If you think you’re strong enough… please join us on Saturday, May 4, 2013. Please call (530) 626-1450 or (916) 939-4464 or visit our website at to participate, donate and support sexual assault awareness in our community.

Kacie’s Ride for Hope Raises over $100,000 for The Center for Violence-Free Relationships

The Center for Violence-Free Relationships would like to announce that Kacie’s Ride for Hope to End Domestic Violence has raised over $100,000 for The Center and victims of domestic violence in our community.

Pat Barron started the bike run through Hope Valley known as Kacie’s Ride for Hope in September 2006 after he lost his sister to domestic violence.  “I have a personal connection to ‘Kacie’s Ride for Hope,’ Pat stated.  “My little sister, Kacie, was shot to death in the driveway of her home by her ex-boyfriend on the 26th of July, 2006. She was only forty years old and left behind a fine young son.”

Since its inception in 2006, Kacie’s Ride for Hope has raised $105,574 for The Center for Violence Free Relationships.  Pat, his wife Sharon and many volunteers work tirelessly every year and the little bike run that started out leaving from a local parking lot now closes down Main Street with the sheer number of people who participate. Since its inception 7 years ago, when they had approximately 150 riders, the ride hosts over 600 riders from all over Northern California – all supporting raising awareness of domestic violence.

Kacie’s Ride for Hope is The Center’s most successful third party fundraiser in The Center’s 30 year history.  The hard work done by Pat and Sharon and all their volunteers and the hundreds of event participants have resulted in The Center being able to provide all of the services needed to victims of domestic violence in El Dorado County.  In addition, Kacie’s Ride for Hope has provided awareness and education to hundreds of people throughout the region. 

The Center would not be able to serve as many victims of domestic violence without the dedicated efforts of Pat and Sharon Barron and Kacie’s Ride for Hope.  This year’s ride will be held on Saturday, September 14, 2013.  To register or for more information go to or call (530) 626-8405.

Community Foundation extends multi-year grant to the Center for Violence Free Relationships

In 2010 the El Dorado Community Foundation sent out requests for proposals for a multi-year grant opportunity to over 300 local nonprofit organizations. The foundation’s focus was to fund a program that would have lasting results in the lives of children and their families and thus they created a grant in the amount of $60,000 to be doled out at a rate of $20,000 per year for three years. The continuing grant was dependent upon reporting clear, quantitative, positive results.

Because research tells us that exposure to domestic violence has a significant negative impact on a child’s emotional, social and cognitive development and if left unaddressed, will have long-term consequences that often affect an individual’s ability to function as healthy adults, the Center for Violence Free Relationships submitted its application with the hopes of funding a new program named the Second Generation Project.

As its name implies, the project’s objective was to intervene and implement comprehensive counseling for children and families who had experienced domestic violence in order to stop the inter-generational transmission of violence. This intervention would include four target areas:

• Breaking the silence and giving youth a place to talk about their experience.

• Emotional coping and development of positive behavior patterns.

• Parental training to cope and to nurture.

• Creating a healing environment for the entire family.

Matt Huckabay, executive director of the center wrote: “Creating this program was truly a labor of love. Several staff members, interns and volunteers spent two years researching, designing the curriculum, identifying the outcomes, and conducting a nationwide peer review of every program component. The entire process and success of the program would not have been possible without the generosity of the El Dorado Community Foundation.”

Huckabay relayed this story in a recent newsletter from the center: “Last week as I was leaving the center, I heard something unique; sounds that we usually don’t hear — the sound of children laughing. Curious, I proceeded to follow this beautiful sound to its source. I rounded the hallway and there they were. Seven magnificent kids all working together to create life-sized cutouts of their bodies on big sheets of white paper. Their exuberance, excitement and a light-heartedness filled the room with the magical energy that only kids can generate. I took a few moments to watch them work on their project. I smiled and felt a tremendous sense of gratitude; gratitude that these kids, each of whom has experienced family violence are able to be part of the center’s Second Generation Project .”

Due to the extent to which this program was executed, researched, evaluated and surveyed, not only is the Community Foundation proud to deliver their third installment of this $60,000 grant to the center, but the Second Generation Project itself is being considered for implementation in like organizations throughout the entire country.

The El Dorado Community Foundation is a 501 (c) 3 established for the purpose of strengthening our community both now and for future generations. The foundation solicits and manages charitable gifts through endowed funds. Grants are awarded throughout El Dorado County in support of local nonprofit programs, services for the residents of El Dorado County. Individuals or organizations interested in learning more about the foundation or how the foundation may be able to help them realize their charitable dreams are invited to contact Bill Roby, executive director, El Dorado Community Foundation, PO Box 1388, 312 Main St., Suite 201, Placerville 95667, 530-622-5621, or

As seen in the Mountain Democrat



The Center Offers Survivors Economic Empowerment Classes

Thanks to grants from Allstate and The California Partnership to End Domestic Violence The Center has put together a financial empowerment series designed to help survivors gain control of their finances.

Often in a domestic violence relationship the abuser rigidly controls the finances, withholds money and credit cards, prevents or sabotages the victims efforts to work, and often steals any money the victim earns or had coming into the relationship.  Once a victim decides to leave, it is difficult to get their financial legs back under them.

This series was designed to help victims make the transition from unempowered to Empowered!

The series will run on the 4th Tuesday or Wednesday of the month beginning March 22/23, and will run until August 24th. The class will be offered Tuesday evenings from 5:30 to 7:30 pm and Wednesday during the day from 10:00 am to 12:00 pm.  These classes will replace the normal DV groups for the 4th week March through August.

The Financial Series Topics are as follows:

  1. Understanding Financial Abuse
  2. Learning Financial Fundamentals
  3. Mastering Credit Basics
  4. Building Financial Foundations
  5. Creating Budget Strategies

The series will also feature a community resource panel and personal 1-on-1 sessions with local financial planners.  Click here to download the Economic Empowerment Flyer.

For more information about the Economic Empowerment Project, please contact Martha Borders (530) 295-4205 or

MyStrength is Not for Hurting El Dorado County Blog

Visit The Center’s MyStrength is Not for Hurting El Dorado County blog/website. In it you will find out posting about what our MyStrength groups are covering, messages from students, and much more. Currently there are MyStrength Boys and Girls Groups going on at Union Mine High School. The website is new, but we hope to see it grow and blossom. Visit the website at

Harmony of the Heart Blog

Our Positive Solutions Director, Eddie Zacapa blogs at You can find some articles and handouts there that he goes over in many of his workshops and programs.

The Center featured on KCRA News

August 25, 2009 EL DORADO COUNTY, Calif. — Battered by the state budget and the  faltering economy, El Dorado County’s Center for Violence-Free Relationships may be  forced to shut down its domestic violence shelter.

Click on link to see full story:  Women’s Shelter In El Do Co. Could Close Center Lost $165K In Funding In July

View this important story on how The Center and El Dorado County has been impacted by Governor Schwarzenegger cutting the funding for California Domestic Violence Programs.

The impact on Center is dramatic – nearly a 20% cut to the annual budget and staff positions that are jeopardizing The Center’s safe house shelter, counseling and legal services for victims. KCRA’s Reporter Lynsey Paulo interviewed Executive Director Matt Huckabay and Survivor Julie Sena who addressed the importance of The Center’s services to victims of violence and to our community.

Both Huckabay and Sena called on the community to get involved and help in this time of need. The economic crisis, job loss and cuts in county services are putting a strain on families thus increasing violence in homes. So while the need goes up – funding goes down to help the most vulnerable in the community.

Without The Center, there would be no place for victims to go…no shelter, no counseling, no prevention education, no legal assistance, no way out for victims to escape the violence.  Please consider making a donation today to support the vital work we do.