October · Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Love should
feel safe.

You deserve warmth, respect, and the freedom to be yourself. If your relationship leaves you feeling afraid, controlled, or unsure, you deserve support.

You do not have to have all the answers to reach out.

Awareness starts with understanding

Abuse can happen without physical violence.

Domestic violence can involve a pattern of power and control. It can happen to people of any gender, age, background, or sexual orientation.

Your boundaries matter.
Your safety matters.
You are not to blame.

Explore the relationship spectrum
Control, isolation, and fear

A partner may limit who you see, monitor where you go, threaten you or people you love, or make you afraid to disagree.

Emotional and verbal abuse

Repeated humiliation, insults, intimidation, and blame can harm your sense of safety and confidence.

Financial and digital control

A partner may restrict access to money or work, demand passwords, track your location, or monitor your messages.

Physical harm and sexual coercion

Hitting, restraining, threats of violence, and pressure or force around sexual activity are abuse. Being in a relationship does not remove your right to say no.

What a healthy relationship can feel like

You can set boundaries, spend time with others, make decisions, and disagree without fear. Care includes respect for your choices and consent.

Support close to home

Help in El Dorado County

Start with an advocate who can listen and help you explore your options. Call ahead before visiting an office.

Placerville & Western El Dorado County

The Center for Violence-Free Relationships

Emotional support, information, and referrals for people affected by domestic violence or sexual assault.

530-626-1131

24/7 crisis support · English and Spanish
Alternate line: 916-939-6616

Public office
344 Placerville Drive, Suite 11
Placerville, CA 95667
Office: 530-626-1450

The Center lists text and web chat during most weekday business hours, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Call for 24/7 support.

Court information & forms

El Dorado Superior Court

Find domestic violence restraining order information, online forms, and filing options for the Western Slope and South Lake Tahoe.

Court self-help provides legal information, not legal representation. Communications with court self-help staff are not confidential.

A place to start

Unsure what kind of help you need?

You can contact an advocate even if you are unsure whether what is happening is abuse. Ask about safety planning, housing resources, counseling, or help understanding next steps.

You choose what to share and which options feel right for you.

Wherever you are

National support

Choose a way to connect that feels safest. Calls, texts, and website visits may leave a record on your device or account.

Domestic violence · 24/7

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Confidential support and help exploring resources and safety options.

800-799-7233

Text START to 88788

Native-centered support · 24/7

StrongHearts Native Helpline

Confidential, culturally grounded domestic and sexual violence support for American Indians and Alaska Natives.

844-762-8483

For Deaf and hard-of-hearing support, visit The Deaf Hotline. Video phone: 855-812-1001. Message and data rates may apply to text services.

Practical next steps

Tools for your safety

Safety planning is personal. An advocate can help you adapt these resources to your situation, whether you stay, prepare to leave, or have already left.

01 / PLAN

Create a personal safety plan

The Hotline’s guided tool helps you think through support, safer places, and options for different situations. Use it on a device you feel safe using.

Open the safety planning tool
02 / TECHNOLOGY

Think through digital safety

If someone may be monitoring you, use a device they cannot access when possible. Changing passwords or removing tracking tools can alert someone; consider planning with an advocate first.

Read the technology safety plan
03 / FAMILY & PETS

Include the people and pets you love

Explore safety resources for children and pets, as well as options while living with an abusive partner.

Explore safety planning resources
04 / LEGAL OPTIONS

Understand the restraining order process

Use the county court’s guides and interactive forms to learn about available steps. A local advocate can help you consider safety alongside legal options.

Explore court forms

Website visits, calls, and texts can leave records on your device or accounts. Private browsing does not make a monitored device safe.

Be a safe person to turn to

Support someone
you care about.

You do not need to have the perfect words. Listening without judgment can make it easier for someone to ask for help.

More ways to support a survivor
“I believe you.
You don’t deserve this.
How can I support you?”
  • Let them lead. Respect their choices and pace. Avoid pressuring them to leave or confront their partner.
  • Ask what is safe. Check how and when you can contact them before sending resources.
  • Offer practical help. A ride, childcare, or sitting with them while they contact an advocate may help.
  • Keep showing up. Support should not depend on whether they make the decision you would make.

Let awareness become everyday care.

This October, learn the signs, share resources thoughtfully, and help make El Dorado County a place where people can reach for support.

The walk is back

Join us for Walk a Mile in Her Shoes.

Put your support into action this Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Walk with The Center and our community to raise awareness and support survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault.

Saturday, October 17, 2026

Placerville Town Hall

Gather at Town Hall, step into heels, and walk through Historic Main Street with neighbors, friends, and local leaders.

Bring your friends, invite your coworkers, and help show survivors that our community stands with them.

Visit the event page for schedule updates and more information.